Have you ever been told, “You shouldn’t care so much what other people think”? Caring what others think can come from wanting respect or trust, both of which are reasonable unless we let someone else decide whether we deserve them.
Don’t Let Others Define You
In her book Daring Greatly, Brené Brown says that we don’t need to stop caring about what other people think of us, but we don’t have to be defined by them. What would you need to define yourself as someone who respects your own judgment and trusts your own instincts?
Listen to Yourself
Listen to yourself first – and last. Seeking other opinions can be valuable in thinking through your options and validating your instincts but you’re the one who has to live with your decisions. Try keeping track of your success rate for three months and be the one to identify what defines you.