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It is pretty common for me to realize that something I say to a client is also something I need to hear.  Recently that has been, “If you aren’t uncomfortable, then you aren’t growing.”  As a result of some major changes in an organization to which I belong, I have been catapulted from a lazy river to the whitewater rapids.

A Bumpy Ride Can be Exciting

Instead of going with the flow, I am asking myself questions that don’t have simple answers.  I’m challenging beliefs and letting go of relationships that have been comfortable for a long time.  At first, it was scary – I don’t know how deep the water is at the end of those rapids.  Now it’s pretty exciting to consider going in a new direction, even if it means a bumpy ride.

Where Aren’t You Growing?

If you aren’t feeling a little uncomfortable in some aspect of your life, I challenge you to think about where you aren’t growing.  As Socrates said, “An unexamined life is not worth living.”

If you are a country music fan you might know Jennifer Nettles’ song, “Stuck Like Glue” that goes, “Some days I don’t feel like trying.  Some days you know I wanna just give up.”   That song has been stuck in my head since a conversation with a close friend who is also a coach.

Let Me Count the Ways

My friend was describing all the areas in her life where she is stuck:  doing work she has do instead of work she wants to do; trying to decide on the status of a relationship; being frustrated with adult children who don’t have time for their mom; arranging care for aging parents.

 How Do I Get Unstuck?

Of course, I had to ask her a coaching question: if you’re feeling stuck in all those areas, where do you need to let go? (Sometimes even we coaches need help seeing the obvious.) It was the jolt she needed to realize that she was trying too hard to control and manage everything and everybody around her.  I can empathize with that.

Just Give Up

So when you’re feeling stuck like glue to a situation that is causing frustration or anxiety, just give up and stop trying to control everything.