Give yourself permission to feel whatever you’re feeling. Cry because you can’t see your mom in the nursing home. Admit that things are really scary and you’re afraid of months with no income. Vent your frustration with being stuck at home. I’ve done all of those things in just the past few hours. Sometimes we just need to wallow in our feelings for a little while without being told not to worry and everything will be fine.
Sometimes we also need help moving beyond our misery. Taking a deep breath and reassuring myself that it is perfectly normal to feel this way is a start. I know my brain is wired to avoid uncertainty and keep me safe. That statement comes from the rational part of my brain and calms me down.
Now I’m equipped to choose how to respond to the uncertainty. Instead of checking the news every 15 minutes and revisiting my worst case scenario plan, I can find ways to be grateful and stay connected. Reaching out by email or text helps me feel less alone; phone or zoom calls and greeting a neighbor from six feet away are even better.
I want to be like the people who are singing from balconies. Will you join me?