Watching my two year old granddaughter dancing and singing these lyrics from the Disney movie “Frozen” was a moving experience:
“Let it go, let it go
Can’t hold it back anymore
Let it go, let it go…”
I hope my granddaughter will continue to embrace the concepts long after she knows all the words and what they mean — letting go of worrying about what others think of you. Of course, that’s easier when things are going well and we feel like we’re making good decisions. It’s much harder not to worry about what others think when we make a very public mistake.
I Am Enough
Self-acceptance requires acknowledging our imperfections, which can be pretty uncomfortable. My introduction to Brené Brown’s work was her book The Gifts of Imperfection. It was a gift to me to be reminded that I am enough even though I’m imperfect – and so is everyone else. All my clients struggle with feeling inadequate at times.
I Need Grace
Self-compassion is vital to self-acceptance. Kristin Neff’s Self-Compassion Scale is great tool for assessing how we can improve this skill. It reminded me that I need to keep working on giving myself grace. One of Dr. Neff’s Self-Compassion Exercises invites us to treat ourselves the way we would a close friend who is struggling – with empathy and compassion.
We are so much more effective when we let go of the need for approval from others and practice self-acceptance. I am motivated to get better at this so I can set a good example for my granddaughter. What will motivate you?