My trainer kept saying, “Come on, you can do this!” even though I told him my foot wasn’t rehabbed enough for jumping. The more he insisted, the more resistant I became. I will push myself pretty hard, but not to the point of potentially doing damage.
How Much is Too Much?
Because he wasn’t getting it I questioned my own approach to pushing my coaching clients beyond their comfort zone. It is one of the toughest things I have to do, but discomfort is sometimes necessary to stimulate behavior change.
Stretch Without Breaking
Leaders also have to find the right balance when pushing their team members. The best way to provide challenges that will stretch people without breaking them is to invest the time to learn:
What motivates the person
What de-motivates them
Where to Start?
A personality assessment like the Birkman is a great starting point, so let me know if you would like to explore how to add this to your leadership toolkit.