If you are a country music fan you might know Jennifer Nettles’ song, “Stuck Like Glue” that goes, “Some days I don’t feel like trying. Some days you know I wanna just give up.” That song has been stuck in my head since a conversation with a close friend who is also a coach.
Let Me Count the Ways
My friend was describing all the areas in her life where she is stuck: doing work she has do instead of work she wants to do; trying to decide on the status of a relationship; being frustrated with adult children who don’t have time for their mom; arranging care for aging parents.
How Do I Get Unstuck?
Of course, I had to ask her a coaching question: if you’re feeling stuck in all those areas, where do you need to let go? (Sometimes even we coaches need help seeing the obvious.) It was the jolt she needed to realize that she was trying too hard to control and manage everything and everybody around her. I can empathize with that.
Just Give Up
So when you’re feeling stuck like glue to a situation that is causing frustration or anxiety, just give up and stop trying to control everything.